Thursday, April 3, 2008

Quarter Life Crisis...

If your 24-26 I'm sure you'll be able to relate to this post. If not, perhaps your behind the curve or ahead of the curve or maybe your just in denial (remember...its a river Africa).

I feel like from early childhood through around graduation from undergrad there is a lot of effort put into making sure that individuals have some sort of guidance on what to expect with each stage of life, what to do what not to do...basically a heads up along the way. Theres all sorts of TV shows and stuff. Think about how much you learned from Sesame Street (some of which you can kinda still apply to life in some way or another)...remember after school specials...ALL SORTS OF STUFF...College, I'm sure everyone had some sort of orientation program with some crazy ice breaker to make everyone feel like a fool...and then everyone had an academic advisor that literally helped you plot out your road to graduation.

Then you graduate....and I feel like everyone is good through their first job (I'm sure the academic advisor and "career services" helped get your resume in check and pointed you in the right direction with your newly bought suit, a gift from a family member no doubt). I hope this isn't just my reality...

Then you hit 24...been working for 2-3 years and shit gets crazy. Chances are you start re-evaluating all sorts of aspects of life....what you do...who you are...where you are...friends...EVERYTHING is up for evaluation....

I'm sorry...where are the shows...the advisors (a therapist helps but that doesn't count in my book)???

I really feel like somebody should have given some sort of a heads up. And saying..."your young...you'll figure it out later" or "You have your whole life to deal with all this" is NOT acceptable answers. Hell.....its not even advice. Its just stuff older people say because it seems like the right thing to say.

I kinda want to ask my parents why they didn't give me some sort of warning...but then again at 25 my parents had 5 yr old me (talk about a crisis...lol..j/k...i was an angel......with devil horns....) so they really didn't have the "luxury" of a crisis of any sort so maybe they didn't have these problems.

Luckily...I figured out who I am last year...friends I'm good...LOVE NYC (specifically Brooklyn)...so I'm good there....

Career......CRISIS. Need a TV...a book...a coach...probably a prayer... It's really difficult to realize that your first choice career may not have been the best choice. Especially when you consider the time and money spent in college to help get you closer to said career. And then the additional time spent honing skills for and in said career to continue to succeed.

So yea folks...I'm lost. I don't know what I want to do with myself. Any suggestions....? I'm drawing blanks....

2 comments:

Christine said...

You're preaching to the choir! The Quarter life crisis is something no one told me about.

Freedom Threw Health said...

Meditation will show you the next step....which is drawing closer to the non-physical self....
Its good your thinking of these things...cuz most people our age are still too concerned with the physical self....

kudos!